If they dont want to be taken, then they should think before they poke landygirl. April 9, 2012, 10:34 pm. April 10, 2012, 7:23 pm. It did say that he was furious at her for not getting an abortion. Hell pay for it but wants absolutely nothing to do with it. I believe the definition of an immature asshole is a 40-year-old man who wont own up to his responsibility to be a father to the baby he had equal part in creating. Actually, the most powerful and damaging ever dont Gingrich, Cheney, Santorum, and Bush spring to mind. I know that everyone is focusing on that, but I think that the response would have been the same even if the LW had acknowledged this. Hes just not ready to start a family. And yes, women do use the laws to trap men into financing their lifestyle of choice (as a single mother).. Dont get me wrong, the child should be taken care of and taken responsibility for but it can never be the reason why you do or dont stay together that decision should be based purely on the possibility for a good relationship between you grown ups. I know youre just trying to tell us that the little scroat wont be able to trap him, buttttt it looks like you cant hold onto him either? The fact that a child is adopted does not somehow guarantee the theyll be cared for. Thats true I figured there was enough speculation on dickish behavior Id just float a more tame scenario by. You are talking as if a decision to terminate a pregnancy is as easy as taking out the garbage, as if there are no consequences to it whatsoever. Or is she trying to get him to live up to his responsibilities (which he brought on himself when he had unprotected sex and got someone pregnant)? It doesnt sound like hes ready to be a one-woman man and get married (let alone start a family), and it doesnt sound like the LW is entirely willing and able to deal with being with a man who has fathered a child that isnt theirs. Hes scum all around in my book. Not with hormonal BC, not with 2 methods of BC, not when one of the individuals has been sterilized. I just think its extremely scumbag-ish to want nothing to do with your child, no matter how it was conceived. April 10, 2012, 9:46 pm. The 16 & Pregnant cast member slash Teen Mom 2 firebrand is many things, but she has never been lucky in love. I dont knowMaybe Im looking at this from the perspective of being an adopted child or having witnessed a friends situation, but I dont think this guy is the worlds worst person like everyone else (but hes still an asshole). As others have said, arguably this is more denial and shock than actual fury. I chose to have a baby. Addie Pray What kind of 40 year old cant live without their SO. A real man steps up to be there for the baby, more than just money for the baby, and to be there for the mother even if he cant stand her. But instead, she rushed into a new relationship with some new guy, got pregnant, and appeared completely irresponsible. I dont think I have ever seen so many thumbs up on one post And it deserves them! reader, haley 22+, writes (22 June 2008): A
.you can call me whatever you like. Regardless of whether or not he wants to stay with this women he impregnanted, do NOT stay with him yourself! April 9, 2012, 6:25 pm, Jesus fucking christ! I know it is hard since you love this guy to see how reprehensible he is. Hes 40 and he doesnt want a child. No man would abandon a woman he impregnates. Id at least like a comment from the LW, since, as much fun as this has been, I do agree that it seems not unlikely that the letter is contrived. Basically, he is dumping you and moving on. Answer (1 of 60): I would drop kick him out the door. I have no idea why you two took a break if you cant live without each other, but honestly, neither one of you is mature enough to be in a committed relationship. I know of a jumpmaster who lost his nose and ears for being too bold doing the one-minute door check in severe cold weather. The guy and the woman had sex. There is no rhyme or reason. Your bf cant stop her from having the baby. female
Hes allowed to not want to be a father! Do you know how much day care alone is a month? Id drop this guy in a heartbeat. To everyone. If he didnt want to wear condomwhateverIll even give him the benefit there. Why isnt it fair of him to be angry? Oh, good lord. April 9, 2012, 2:14 pm. Even if you wore a condom. Its not that fucking hard. April 9, 2012, 1:15 pm. Apparently the LW couldnt trap him either since they broke up. evanscr05 Of course, there are adjustments to be made, but babies do not mean that all other relationships become secondary. Especially if you think the laws are unfair, I think youd be particularly cautious in your actions. How the heck do you administer THAT?! Every relationship ends in death or a breakup, so this is not unusual. Not to say that a single mother cannot give a child the support she needs alone, but as the father if you wash your hands of being in the childs life, you do not KNOW or even have a reasonable expectation (especially if shes a one night stand youve only known for 2 minutes) that the mother will be a sufficient parent. Which is funny, since weve been telling right wingers that all along. In the long run, US ends up with what I like to refer to as the Feminist Mystake. If they dont want to be taken, then they should think before they poke. And most important of all, whats all this talk of ASKING WOMEN to have abortions? First things first, get yourself to a doctor or Planned Parenthood or somewhere like that and get tested for STDS! And not because he deserved it for having possibly unprotected sex. Its not some big secret that women have that option and that men are legally obligated to provide financially if she exercises that option. Clearly it is horribly wrong to lie about that but thats not the argument here. Guess what LW? I dont think anyones saying that. And yet men still keep having sex with us. I was thinking this letter was going to be juicy!! What are your thoughts on an abortion? Changing the facts and then arguing them is just as useless as creating facts and arguing those whether you admit to it or not. He didnt come chasing after you.
Jimmy has made his choice. Because we stayed together, she caused him a lot of . bittergaymark And for some reason people always seem to have the idea that it wont happen to them. Because of my family not being to fond of him we broke it off and i was depressed for along time. That would be the end of any sort of relationship sex. This guy isnt worth anyones time. April 9, 2012, 9:16 pm. So he literally now has to reap what he sows as the consequences of his actions. The woman can choose to abort the baby, even in the event the father desperately wants it, and is willing to raise and support it himself. He didnt expose her to STDs. If a woman gets pregnant from a quick, meaningless relationship and tells the father that shes expecting, and the father wants desperately to keep the baby, what do we call the woman who aborts the child anyways? female
Heres the fact: LW, you dont get a say in what this woman does, and neither does your boyfriend. Generally it turns into a bunch of bleeps. And shame on you for agreeing that he is entitled to this opinion. There is no inherent unfairness in current laws child support is gender-blind. Because one of the known outcomes is happening to him and hes pissed at someone else. April 10, 2012, 7:22 pm. I have a really hard time believing that this guy who hates this woman and wants nothing to do with this child had a civil conversation with the baby mom discussing their options, while stating his preference for an abortion. Both parties should be concerned about birth control. I dont know if hes a bad guy or not since we only have the ex-girlfriends side of the story. Because thats really not that old. And they seem to have a lot of time on their hands. You are arguing for NO abortion in cases of rape.. Your welcome. Its a sad situation when an unplanned pregnancy happens between two individuals that arent committed to each other, let alone two individuals who actively dislike each other. The way you talk, I gotta believe youre one of those disgusting pro-lifers who are always trying to control people. OH MY GOD!! In the state I live in, you can leave a baby (or even child I think) in a church or hospital if you do not want the child and you will not get in any trouble for it. I attempt to avoid name calling, but youre not very smart. No one should be forced to abort a child, but no one should be forced to have one they do not want. Reading your letter, you are far too immature to handle this. bittergaymark April 9, 2012, 10:01 am. 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You were on a break, not even completely seperated from the relationship, and he clearly has some space in that undying love for you to have unprotected sex with a stranger. Hi guyssssss,I wanted to share a storytime video with you guys since it has a lot to do with the reason I moved to LA and a lot to do with who I am today!Sid. If there was a child at conception, abortion would be murder. IF men want to engage in condomless sex and want a choice (which women DONt have btw, we dont TELL our bodies when we want our eggs fertilized and when we dont, I WISH we could that would be such an intelligent design feature!) No loss there. How long his new relationship has lasted. While youre at it make sure to pop out a few more kids yourself, too. He didnt marry you. bittergaymark You say it takes two to make a baby but somehow its only the man that gets labeled an irresponsible dick. I know, right? Hes so full of sh*t, I bet his eyes are brown. We decided to get back together as we cant bear life without each other. I love the argument that the women receiving child support are just sipping margaritas all day while getting mani/pedis on this income. In the future, if I should ever have the desire to date again I would use condoms in addition to birth control to make sure I dont get diseases. I get owning up to your responsibilities in an unwanted pregnancy, but you cant really think that is going through every non-idiot males mind when he gets ready to have sex. You sure arent one. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? We learned that in middle school. I agree Savannah. She still doesnt get it, but we tried. Takeoff Shot in Head and Torso, According to Coroner Report, Aaron Carter Pulled Over On Suspicion Of DUI While Driving RV. If the woman chooses to take on the responsibility of raising the child alone, she ought not have the right to force the indentured servitude (financial or otherwise) of the father against his stated wishes. We only have sex if were ready to be a father? I feel in a way he is essentially giving the child up for adoptionto the mother who wants the child. It only says he asked her to. I am sorry, but that is just dumb. He wants to get back with the LW (again, apparently) Just like we trust people when they say they got tested? FireStar Its not right Im sure I wouldnt. However, not once did I say anything like what youre implying. iseeshiny You said it better, but I jumped back in before seeing your replies. Image Source. Welcome.In todays video I PRANK MY GIRLFRIEND !I GOT ANOTHER GIRL PREGNANT PRANK ON GIRLFRIEND. Seriously, that is your interpretation of the male thought process? Good. I think hes scum because hes furious with the girl he impregnated. That is what makes him a douchenozzle. Again, this implies that a pregnancy must lead irrevocably to a child. hamster van beethoven Chuck Pelto And those young boys and those young boys parents have wages garnished for the next 18 years to pay for the rapists child. REALLY? But I would not for one reason other than the fact that trusting him again would be difficult to do (and that would IMHO b. I also think that some LWs after reading the comments change there stories in the updates to try to save face though. April 9, 2012, 9:31 pm. He cant force her to get an abortion, and she cant force him to be in the kids life. It will have feelings too. Why you waste any time belly aching about how unfair it is, is beyond me. But thats a crime?. It may not be widely known among the comment threads of womens advice blogs and other social hangouts but the family law bar is well aware of this issue. Seriously, cry me a river you ignorant #**>##!!! But if YOU really are so fucked up and so pathetic that you want to build a life with a man who for intents are purposes wants to simply abandon his own child have at it. We all know that going in. April 9, 2012, 11:40 am. I know exactly what child support means, and you are discussing the post-birth situation, where there actually is a child who actually needs support. On the other hand, once Im in a committed and loving relationship, I like giving blow jobs, even though I dont have any physical satisfaction from it. There is no way to know this. And as far as that man saying that he wants nothing to do with the woman or THE BABY shame on him. Have an abortion or Ill be furious = Have fries with that or Ill be furious > Psycho.
I love your snark this morning!! Then, after giving him an ultimatum to get it together or lose you, you felt it best to move away and hoped he would run after you. The next day I text her that we can give it another chance, but she insisted she was not feeling the same . And he has agreed to support the child financially. And thats why I wouldnt want anything to do with him in the first place. And honestly, if my boyfriend told me he wants nothing to do with his own child. Beyond that, no one really cares that he jumped in bed with another woman right after they broke up only to decide that he cant live without her after getting said woman pregnant. If the woman in question is also 40, I highly doubt her birth control failed. I mean, for starters, if I even had one unplanned baby while on the pill, Id probably not continue to use it. He's got to focus on his ex and tell himself she wants to be with him and not the other man in the long run. It sounds glib, and I mean, malarky? Its easy to think the guy is a scumbag for not wanting to be a dad. She should have either used additional contraception or not engaged with sex with a man who wasnt actively pursuing fatherhood, because now shes fucking with 2 other peoples lives who do not have an active role in the decision-making process. make sure you use back up protection! Its been done and will continue to be done, as long as accidents, divorce, and death happen. Let me fill you in on reality: when a guy sleeps with a woman he believes to be on the pill, he does so with the not-unreasonable expectation that she doesnt want to become pregnant. The you made your choice when you had sex argument goes both ways. BTW, believe it or not, I usually agree with the majority of the commenters here. Seriously this is skeeving me out. April 9, 2012, 12:29 pm. reader, marissa0916+, writes (26 August 2015): A
I always thought that had to be a mutual decision. You are acting like child support is some sort of lottery win for the woman it is court ordered money that is to go towards the care of your child. I love him so I'm willing to accept the baby. Or is it Dear Wendy gender wars where the men stick together to excuse bad behavior of men while the women cry foul? Therefore, why are you depressed? In other cases, receiving a text from an ex can immediately bring up feelings of annoyance, dread or even fear particularly if the relationship was a toxic and unhappy one that you want distance from. He willingly engaged in sex (apparently without a condom) with a woman he knew for two minutes. female
If he cant afford the child support, get away from him as he will be an emotional and financial drain.